Author: Topher Gen

Writer, blogger, horrified observer / Passionate about LGBTQ, mental health & music

Me, Myself & My Mental Health.

What is depression to you? To me it’s an invisible illness whose symptoms feel almost physical. A hammering in my chest from anxiety; a sore head from trying to wade my way through a sea of foggy thoughts. It’s a prickly panic that washes over me when I’m outside. It’s being obsessed with fitness and my weight but also treating…

Skinny Legend.

Like most people with body confidence issues, I seek affirmation from internet strangers in a way that is akin to an addiction. And there’s no better place to do this than Instagram, a platform where other people offer their thoughts and opinions freely – especially if your latest post is somewhat ‘risque.’ The remarks can swing from sugary praise and…

Menthol Cigarettes

I want a boyfriend. Any boyfriend. And this boy, the one with a handsome face attached to a toned body, fits my idea nicely. Initially I only liked his Instagram; then I started to appreciate his quirky web presence and his endearingly blunt replies. Then, before I knew it, it soon became him I liked. Eventually we stitched together a…

PrEP Talk – look after your sexual health

As I climbed the stairs to the sexual health clinic, I felt as though I was going insane. With each step I promised myself that if I could just get another all-clear, be handed a clean bill of sexual health, I’d change my ways. I’d become a good gay. I’d stop the string of random hook-ups, invest time in love…

LGBT 🏳️‍🌈 Respect Us by Educating Yourself.

The gays are on the rise: we are setting-then-dominating trends, we are slowly sliding our way into the mainstream media and we basically run Twitter. Gay culture is becoming better known; more popular, if you will. And while this sudden surge in popularity is great, it’s also birthed a new type of ignorance, one that isn’t rooted in homophobia, but…

Gay, Unpopular – why don’t they like me?

As gay men many of us are obsessed with popularity. We seek it out on Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat; at clubs, parties and bars. We edit photos and add filters. We count how many likes we get and tailor what we say to fit our audience. We do this daily and we do it for senseless validation. We are obsessed with…

Common Ground – Being happy for your ex.

It’s easy to forget someone’s magic when they’re no longer in your life. Their faults, mistakes and indiscretions become a narrative louder than “Remember how happy he once made you.” Those times they made you feel amazing are now foggy and time-worn; the passionate sex is a dimly lit, bland memory.  Yes, it’s easier to villainise and critique, to condemn…