It’s easy to forget someone’s magic when they’re no longer in your life. Their faults, mistakes and indiscretions become a narrative louder than "Remember how happy he once made you." Those times they made you feel amazing are now foggy and time-worn; the passionate sex is a dimly lit, bland memory. Yes, it’s easier to … Continue reading Common Ground – Being happy for your ex.
For gay men, dating can be a tricky thing. Generally speaking, the guy you want to stick around never does, and the ones you don’t want to see again spend the next four months trying to shoehorn their way back into your life. First dates are even trickier still: drawn-out silences, waiting for his first … Continue reading The Curse of Sex on the First Date.
‘Who can tell me what these are?’ Our teacher held a box out in front of the us, shaking it vigorously. ‘Anyone?’ He left the question open to the class, his words hanging in the air lifelessly. We all knew what he was holding, it was a box of condoms, yet we sat anxiously clutching … Continue reading Why We Need LGBT + Inclusive Sex Education in Schools
The first time I waddled into a gay bar I was immediately thrust out of my comfort zone. At the time my eardrum was punctured, so I said ‘what?’ a lot and my English sounded broken. I wore ill-fitting vests that hung like a potato sack over my body and every guy I encountered looked … Continue reading Straight Women & Gay Bars
On September 13th, 2010, I got an alert from Facebook telling me that someone had messaged me. At the time I didn’t own a fancy iPhone, so all I received was a frantic beeping sound and a text that told me I had a mail. It was from my ‘ex-boyfriend’. I use that term loosely … Continue reading First Love – & Why Dating is Harder if You’re Gay.
There is nothing quite so demeaning as being crippled by depression; your body flopping into a horseshoe across your bed. Unsure if you’re going to vomit, or if you’re going to die; awash with pure exhaustion, the kind that is syrupy and unavoidable. You want to sleep like you’ve been clubbed in the head. Sometimes … Continue reading A Picture of (Mental) Health.
How Surgery Changed My Life.
There’s sharp difference between being alone and being lonely. Personally, I love being alone; it's when I'm at my funniest, my sexiest, my most powerful. It's when I can collect my thoughts without anyone needing to hear them or annoyingly ask “what're you thinking about?" I can analyse and dissect my life and the problems … Continue reading Essay: The Difference Between Being Alone & Being Lonely.
I’ll never be this young again; I’ll never be this thin again. I’ll never look this lonely again. The camera clings to my imperfections - a ripple of stubborn belly fat that refuses to be moved; the squint in my eyes, the harsh sharpness of my nose at certain angles. The obscure, yet apparently desirable … Continue reading Self-Portrait – Naked Selfie