For gay men, dating can be a tricky thing. Generally speaking, the guy you want to stick around never does, and the ones you don’t want to see again spend the next four months trying to shoehorn their way back into your life. First dates are even trickier still: drawn-out silences, waiting for his first … Continue reading The Curse of Sex on the First Date.
As a child, I never pictured the adult me saving lives or battling it out in courtrooms as a hotshot lawyer; nor did I didn’t imagine myself venturing to other planets and having a good ole time – at least not alone. Instead when I pictured myself doing, well, anything it was always with someone … Continue reading Single as F*ck.
You know when you’re walking along, enjoying the sun, and you see a little bee buzz by before it delicately lands on a flourishing flower and you think, ‘yeah, little buddy. That’s exactly where you’re meant to be!’ Well, that’s how God feels when He sees me crying in the bathroom of Taco La Bamba. … Continue reading HTRE – Part 1: The Collapse of Mental Stability Never Felt so Funny.
There have been a lot of changes in my life lately; I’ve got a new job, I’m in a relationship, I started watching GBBO…Yes, a lot of changes crammed into a very minuscule amount of time. As welcome as these changes are, they have of course triggered me – what doesn’t trigger me, right? – … Continue reading I Need a Holiday
The first time I waddled into a gay bar I was immediately thrust out of my comfort zone. At the time my eardrum was punctured, so I said ‘what?’ a lot and my English sounded broken. I wore ill-fitting vests that hung like a potato sack over my body and every guy I encountered looked … Continue reading Straight Women & Gay Bars
The following are things I’ve said and/or written down on recent nights out. Yet still I drink. Gays can sense other gays. It’s like when you’ve petted another dog and your dog just knows. Let it be noted that sober Topher went out on his own volition and regrets everything. I hate meeting ‘Twitter gays’ … Continue reading Unlikely Things I’ve Said on a Night Out
Telling someone how I’m feeling, really feeling, is equal parts simple and impossible for me. I wear my heart on my sleeve, I have always been this way, which is a trait that hasn’t always served me well. It isn’t hard to decipher my mood; people can always tell when somethings up. I wear my … Continue reading Fake – Expressing How I Feel Vocally & Why It’s So Hard.